Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Pacifier

Several people have wondered about Connor and his teddy.  What can I say? 

Connor is one of the more interesting dogs I've known.  He is all wild enthusiasm, exuberance and nearly manic energy.  He is ultra high octane (even more than most Border Collies) and beneath that fluffy coat, he is nothing but whipcord and muscle.  Connor has a very different relationship with gravity than the rest of us mere mortals.

He is also fiercely intelligent and under all of that kinetic energy is a highly sensitive and somewhat fragile soul.  Given a job to do, all that energy, enthusiasm and intelligence come together into a quiet, focused powerhouse.  I think he could be an exceptional stock dog if he was allowed to develop his skills and focus his energy without scaring him.  Not much frightens Connor, but once he does get scared of something, there is no changing it.  You don't get any second chances with Connor.

Like any mortal creature though, even Connor needs a certain amount of rest and downtime, but those are the things that come hardest to him.  This is where the blue rabbit comes in, hideous and grubby as it is despite regular washing.

Connor has used his stuffed toys as a kind of surrogate right from the start and he began "nursing" on them the day I brought him home.   The blue bunny, which was a hand-me-down from a friend, is the one that has held up.  The nursing is clearly a self-soothing, somewhat compulsive behavior.  He puts his whole mouth over the teddy's face and sucks on it with all of his unquenchable enthusiasm,  sometimes for hours at a time.  He kneads it with his paws and goes into a kind of meditative trance and afterward, gravity wins for just a bit and he sleeps.

For all his meteoric energy, exuberance and drive, I often think that this is when you can see Connor's true personality the clearest.

10 comments:

  1. Do you think there will be a crisis if/when teddy eventually bites the dust, or is Connor emotionally flexible enough to switch to a successor? I wish the blue bunny a very long life, but maybe we should all go on an Internet hunt for a worthy, endlessly suckable replacement pacifier?

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    1. My guess is that Connor will grow out of this.

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    2. I think he would adopt a new teddy if I find one. He might grow out of it, but several other people have told me their dogs do something similar and they never did grow out of it even at 12 years old. Time will tell:)

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    3. A friend's kitten used to do this, for many years, to humans: you couldn't have her on your lap without her climbing up your chest and "nursing" on your neck or chin. Drooling and purring like crazy. The brutal part was the kneading...

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  2. well that is strange. My d'Arcy did that as a puppy as well. Unfortunately we had to remove the plush things from him because he would also eat them and that wasn't good for his intestine. I would, periodically, find a big wet spot on my comforter where he had done that. He does not do it now.

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  3. A loving home is where a boy can be himself.

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  4. So lovely to see how insightful you are about this boy. He has so many bc qualities it is amazing. You are the bestest Mom!

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  5. Well, bless his heart...I'll bet it's hard to be Connor some days!

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